I have been thinking-- and really it's along the lines of what I have been thinking for months--I have to go to school, but there has to be other ways to free up time and in the end have more fun with my daughter and make a better home environment for all of us.
I recently read this
"We need to find God, and He cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls" (Mother Teresa).I don't think Mother Teresa ever met my four year old. :-)
The point is, we need to live simpler lives. Let me say that again. We NEED to live simplier lives. We need to as a family, as a society even. Think about it, we have all these hightec gadgets, even low tech gadgets and we are busier and more stressed then ever. I was reading on Manage Your Life Now that the causes of stress today "emerge from the too many obligations" that we have to juggle, every single day. Not only do we have to juggle them, our kids have to. Our children are starting their lives stressed. Childhood and its play and exploration has been replaced by structured activities. When we expect 5 or 6 year olds to act like Mom and Dad we force expectations on them that we never had as children. I wasn't whisked off to play dates 3 or 4 days a week, were you? I wasn't put in camps every week of the summer, were you? I wasn't in structured sports at 4, yet we have 2 and 3 year olds doing these things and it can't be good. I speak as a mom that has done this. I have been driving from activity to activity myself, doing business on the cell phone and throwing McDonald lunches at my toddler and preschooler because we are rushing from one thing to another. No more, my daughter just wants to be happy and do things with me and her daddy.
So my challenge to you: Give up some outside activities. Pick a day that will be media free in your family. I think I will pick Monday. I'll see how the family feels, it may change, but Monday sounds good. No Computers on Monday..... Maybe we will enjoy it so much we will do two days, but we will start with one. Simpler and Calmer.... a new mantra in our house. Think and Believe and it shall BE!