I think we can all agree that education is a wonderful and and exciting thing. It sparks dreams and hopes and provides us with worlds beyond our space, but education can also limit us when it binds us to a box and uses a method that doesn't match us.
|Practice letting things flow in |
there own time.... That's
when the fun happens.
In coming weeks we will be exploring some things you can do, that don't cost a lot or take a lot of space to help teach the "WHOLE CHILD" in the "PRE-GRADE SCHOOL" Years. Many will be items you likely have on hand already, all that's required is some imagination on your part (or the part of the kiddo in your life). Given free rein, with just minimal guidance from you, your child's imagination will take over and flourish providing unparalleled opportunities for learning from the most mundane objects. You don't need expensive toys, memberships or field trips to accomplish this. Just one thing, openness.
I read this today and liked what it had to say for the most part, though the article may not be understood by many: "So much of what we see as disobedience in children is actually just natural, curious, exploring, learning behaviour. Or reacting – in the only way they know how – to a situation over which they have no control" (Since when.....). What brought about that? Well I have been fighting a never ending battle within myself over the way I want to parent and what everyone else expects of me. I do think that some may read this article and not understand what it is talking about, but I hope some will read it with an open mind. I do think children need to listen to parents, but the author is right, blind obedience, while an interesting thought, isn't really what we want in our children. We all want--NEED-- children that listen and not talk to strangers, or that don't do what their peers do just because everyone does it. Yet, we also want children that have minds of their own, that are creative and full of energy, while listening to us and obeying when we really need them too. I don't want, nor need, my child to blindly believe what I say just because I say it all the time. If that's the case, how can she ever explain why she does something or why she believes in something? No, she should be allowed to question when appropriate.
We expect our children to be little adults. I was given so much guff because we allowed Sarah to decide when she wanted to be potty trained. Those people that forced the issue have had some scary stories, or stories that seem scary to me. I decided it wasn't worth the fight after having a fight, not because I felt she should be trained but because everyone else felt she should be. Guess what, when she decided on her own to become potty trained she did it. Are there accidents once in a while? Yes, but that's only normal and we know accidents happen.
I witnessed a 4 1/2 year old one time that accidentally spilled a drink on the carpet in her family's dinning room, this was years before I had my own child, and I witnessed the fear in this child over an accident and the parents reaction. Accidents happen, they happen to all of us. I still spill things. I still mess up. How about you? If we are adults and still mess up why and how can we expect our children to never have an accident or make a mistake? We are placing our children upon a path they can't possibly walk. They can't ever do it and will live thinking they are never making us happy or that we are never proud of them. I know people think I'm crazy, but I am downright proud of some of my daughters antics. Her spunk and enjoyment of life is inspiring. It doesn't mean she doesn't get in trouble, because she does. Some things, we have to learn, are wrong and some rules must be learned for safety and health.... anyway my point is, sometimes we don't let our children be kids.
So go forth and tend your gardens gentle friends.....